He's Just Not That Into You

YES!!! That dude doesn’t really send you! Gba!!! Deal with it. Put am for body. Chin up. And keep it stepping. Not the end of the world. Another one will come. When you start to wonder if a guy is interested in you or not, or when you start making excuses for him not communicating with you- then sweetie that’s a sign. Pack your luggage and move on.

Before I start my usual talk about men (I’m forever talking about boys n’it? It’s becos I no get one- LWKM), I just want to say a big thank you to Scarlet for her kind words. You actually find my writing inspiring? Lol!! I actually laugh at this Tigeress blog of mine. I call it my play play blog. But thank you me dear. I’m really delighted to know that someone out there actually likes my blog. Another person I’d like to thank is Cici. Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment.

Back to my story story. So I watched the movie He’s Just Not That Into You last night and OMD was that Gigi character for real? She soooo deserves the wth x3. WTH WTH WTH!!!! Now for we ladies who are still in the dating scene- let us not front we have all been guilty of Gigi’s character. Well maybe not as over the top as she was cos dang that child was on another level of Desperation that she ‘over’ put herself out there. But at some point we’ve been guilty. Look, I still did it this week- stared at my phone wondering why he had not called, wondering when he’ll call, and hoping he’ll call. Although this Gigi girl seemed over the top, I’m sure there are plenty plenty girls out there who are just as bad. I mean when you put your life on hold waiting for that phone call. When you make the first move, call the guy and leave a retarded message on him vm or leave a scripted message. When you orchestrate bumping into a guy. Or you’re always the one having to reach out to him before you communicate. Or you don’t hear from him for days after you shag him. Or you don’t generally hear from him often becos of his so called busy scheduled. Or he’s always trying to get into your knickers each time you see. Or a guy who has not made any effort to woo you or emotionally feed you and yet feels he has the rights to rub ur tits or exercise his prick between your legs (HISSSSSSSSSS!!!!!!). Or he doesn’t take you out on dates/social functions where u can be seen together. Or you call him and courtesy doesn’t demand he return your calls. Or he never asks after your well being. BOLLOCKS!!!! And I repeat- UTTER BOLLOCKS!!!! I mean seriously?!!! Dude no send you! How could women conclude that such a guy likes them? I mean he might like what’s between ur legs but does he have good intensions towards you or does he hold you dear to his heart? Somehow I doubt that. I mean, men help me out here. I’ll use myself as an example:

Youngins (my baby daddy bf who loves the attention his baby mama gives him and who shacked up with her only few weeks after making a pass at me) never ever thought of taking me out or on a date. I tell Youngins about Ope (they are namesakes and btw Youngins definitely reads my blog- hissssssss!!! Only God knows how he got my blog) and all of a sudden he wants to meet up with me for lunch and the next nite we go out to dinner. I mean I’ve known Youngins for 8ms and he has always worked 10mins from my office but never has he thot to take me out to lunch. But he hears about Ope and he’s shaking. Now this is what amuses- for some unexplainable reason- Youngins reckons me and him should be snogging/rolling in the hay. E gba mi- to ri kini? Cos u’re yellow and cute? Seriously? Actually he justifies he sexual attempts to him liking me. Dude, seriously? I mean do I look that horny? Are there girls out there who give it up all becos a guys says he likes her. Wanting to grope me does not define your likeness for me. I mean dude makes it so easy for me not to be interested in him.

Then there’s Protocol. Now Protocol is one guy I can say I’m definitely interested in. He’s a Christian. He understands the importance of God in our lives. Spiritually he can feed me. Don’t get me wrong o, it’s not as if- if I should rub his chest now he’ll tell me sister Tigeress take it easy o! Dude will whip out his raincoat quick quick. LWKMD!!!! But Protocol doesn’t call me. He’s busy. To be honest the few times I’ve called him regarding sorting out my NYSC- the conversations have been great. He’s one of those guys that without saying those exact words- u’ll think (know) that he’s feeling you. But the truth of the matter is- even tho he’s in Naija if Protocol really was interested- he’d call me on the regular. He no send me!!! But this Protocol has entered my eyes. If I should catch him!!! Lol!!

PennS (Sex with my Penn Station Crush)- him I’m not really sure of. Cos me I can't marry a Muslim. And dude needs to marry omo Yankee cos of ‘papers’. Me- na green passport wey me I get. But yeh, PennS (btw is still looking sexy as hell- hehehehe) is kinda back on the scene. I don’t know what he wants from me cos he’s met the babe he’s planning to marry to collect his iwe. He wan marry 2 wives? Just like Youngins, he too bases his reason for hitting on me becos his likes me. And u know what’s so funny- the perplexed look on their faces when I tell them to back the hell off and not touch me in any shape of form. They have this look as if it’s foreign to them. Lol!!! So now that me and him know we can't marry- what exactly can he want other than sex? And btw, in as much as I think he’s hot, I am SOOOOOO not interested in him. God has delivered me. Lol!!!

And there’s FRO. Let me not deceive myself, FRO no send me jare. At least what I’m looking for- he doesn’t have to offer me. Feelings are mutual towards each other. But would I want to marry him? Would he want to marry me? Eeeemmmmm………………????? I guess we’re both curious as to what could have been. What might have been? All the ‘what if’s’. That closure- we’ll get it.

Now ladies, it’s not every single or good looking guy you put into the dating pool or you consider for marriage- at least not immediately.

E.g. Ope who is good at keeping in touch and at the same time not a nuisance and constantly declares his feelings towards me and is already making plans for us against my next trip to Chicago but yet still has a picture of him and his so called ex girlfriend as his profile picture. His reason? He just left it there- he can't be bothered. I mean seriously? No.1 it’ll take you a few seconds to take that off. No.2 as long as you have your (ex) babe all over your FB- no one’s gonna think you’re single. No.3 if indeed he just got out of a relationship like a month and a half ago- then he has no business looking for something intense so soon.

And there’s Fresh. Fresh Fresh Fresh. Hehehehehe!!! I have never looked at him in the light other than some dude I’m friends with. But very recently I caught myself thinking eeeemmm……maybe. I mean, I don’t see him and perve on him they way I do on PennS but still- dude is cute!!! But that ‘maybe’ came to a screeching halt after talking to him yesterday. Dude goes and I quote, “I just came out of a relationship, and I’m not looking. If my ex wasn’t African American, we’d still be together”. At least that what I think I heard. Well with that said- my open mind became closed. Lol!!! I mean what’s the point? Let me close my mind, remain friends, keep in touch and when dude is back in the market- then I’ll open my mind back up (if I’m still single)- nah? Lol!!

Look my fellow bloggers- I’m sure some will not agree with my ideology. But me I want to marry. There is no point ‘talking’ to a guy who is not in the mind set of getting married. I don’t want to talk to a guy to see if we can be bf/gf. I want to talk to him to see if we are compatible for marriage. I’m not ashamed to say it. After all I’m 30.

Speaking of which my birthday is on the 21st. Can’t believe I won't make it to London to celebrate with family and friends. :( I’ll be spending my bday alone (I don’t really have friends in NJ and I’m not going to Chicago). I refuse to spend my special day with some random person(s). Must of all I can't believe I won't be getting any bday snog (kiss) talk less bday nukie. Hissssssssss!!!! And God knows I need a proper good snog. A little rolling in the hay won't do no harm either. Which reminds me- I had the opportunity of kissing Fresh but didn’t. Just couldn’t. Didn’t feel right. We could have kissed in the rain under the umbrella but I chickened out. Maybe next time. But then again, what’s the point?

Look ladies, if a guy sends you, he'll let you know loud and clear and he'll call you on a regular. For me, I guess the 'wait' still continues. This MRS- we go collect am- Isha Allah! LMHO!!!!