The other woman and your husband: My take Pt2 (Audio post)

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Now let me school you, as a single woman, the older you get the higher the chances that you’ll at one point have an affair with an unavailable man- whether physical, emotional or both, or almost have an affair, have a crush/soft spot for an unavailable man, or be aggressively pursued by one. It comes to a point when all the men around you literally fall under that category. If you’re like me- a man-loving-tall-dark-slim-dimpled woman then trust me even when they get married they still look hawt!!! Vice versa. If one of the reasons your man is with you because of ur slim big booty yellow self- trust me- u’re not the last of her kind on earth. To single ladies who proclaim that they will never hook- up with a married man- my advice to you is don’t even entertain them whatsoever. Once you know they are married cut them off ASAP!!! Don’t ever think you are strong enough to withstand temptation. Cos we are human and women have a fickle heart which can easily be manipulated. And men know this!!! I can say I have never shagged a married man before, but that’s because I took the steps of totally cutting them off out of my life before it got to that stage. There is no need!!!! May their wives not send the Holy Ghost fire to burn the Jezebel spirit that is (not) in my life. Ma ko ba mi!! I have pulled my ears and fled o! Me I no dey do. I am not following anoda woman’s husband o! lol!!

For married women who their husbands are cheating on them with a single lady- my heart goes out to you. It does. But bitterness towards the other woman is what I don’t understand (well except if the other woman is someone known personally). Frown at them all you want. But here’s my take on that. Sit back and think about it. Your man who decided to cheat on you did so despite the risk he faces of losing you or breaking your heart, but that didn’t stop him. It is VERY likely that he was the one who pursued the single lady. And even if for some odd reason you truly believe it is the husband-snatching-winch of a single girl who dug her claws into your man- remember he had the choice of telling her to EFF OFF; but chose not to. Just the same way you do not encourage men who hit on you when u’re in a relationship. And even when this so called home-destroyer of a woman was showing her colour- ur man didn’t tell you. So get off your high horses and stop bitching about the other women and focus that energy on your husband’s infidelity. These single ladies have nothing to lose. HELLO!!! If anything at all- they are trying to get what you already have. It is up to the man to nip that shii in the bud and for you to fight for what is yours and wish to keep. Stop blaming the other woman for your man’s stupidity. Mehhhn if it means going gangsta on his ass like Femi’s wife did in Reloaded- then so be it. And remember this other woman could be a victim too. Your husband may be promising her heaven and earth and feeding her lies (or truth) of leaving you for her- which does happen. Wives do get kicked to the curb. I had a boss whose husband left her for her best friend and they are still together. For these single ladies to stick around- your husband must be satisfying her emotionally, sexually, and materially. She too has feelings for your husband and in fact might also be in love.

And sorry to say this but I was watching a movie Not Easily Broken, and dang some women are so stupid that they literally give their husbands away on a gold platter. My prayer to God is that may He make me a good wife and grant me wisdom so that I do not use my own hands to pull my house down. And men/women who take their wives/husbands for granted, treat them like crap, cheat on them, treat them like your servants, abuse them, disrespect them, not satisfy them emotionally/physically- remember there’s always someone out there that would appreciate them. Still………..no excuses tho!!! Once emotions start rolling in, it’s hard to put a stop to it. The Truth about Cheating by Gary Neuman states that highest reason why men cheat is because of emotional dissatisfaction. Eeemmmmm……..somehow I don’t think that applies to Naija men. Greed? Lack of respect?

To the single ladies cajoled into such relationship- sweety, is this really the best you can get? Play second fiddle for how long? Do you not deserve a home, a family? Why do you feel the need to share when you can have a man all to yourself? And yes some of these relationships might be really love (yeh right!), but you’re still helping a man break up his home. Innocent children are gonna suffer for it. The wife is hurting. Even if she’s the wicked witch of the west (which she most likely isn’t) - she still doesn’t deserve it. And for those vicious single ladies who do target married men without a care in the world…………… I leave you in God’s hands because I do not have words for your wicked ways. (Proverbs 30:20 This is the way of an adulterous woman: She eats and wipes her mouth, And says, “I have done no wickedness.”)

The Peril of Adultery….As for the men, remember that you’re the head of the house. If the head is useless, it affects the body. There are spiritual implications of your actions which does not only affect you. You give room for the devil to rear its ugly head into your home. When we arbor inequity in our heart, God does not hear us. So because of you prayers of your family may not be answered. We women have feelings. We are not super beings. We bleed when you’re unfaithful. No, it is not normal for spouses to cheat. It is not acceptable. And this also goes for wives who cheat (Prov 14:11. The wise woman builds her house, But the foolish pulls it down with her hands.). It causes a lot pain. When you love someone, you shouldn’t want to see them hurt. But ultimately remember who you sin against; the one person who can punish you for your actions. God. If we have the fear of God, then we would go to great lengths to avoid adultery. Only a foolish person will poke their fingers in fire.

Totally random…….Now for women who have been left bitter by a man’s infidelity- remember one thing, you’re not the only one hurting- the children are too. So those women who for their own selfish quest for revenge hinder their children from having a relationship with their father- you will face the consequences of your action one day. Because I don’t believe a bad husband equates to a bad father.
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Psalm 111:10 (King James Version)
10The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom: a good understanding have all they that do his commandments: his praise endureth for ever.

Proverbs 6
32 Whoever commits adultery with a woman lacks understanding (in some translation it says He has no sense); He who does so destroys his own soul……..
34 For jealousy is a husband’s fury; Therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance